Owen Jones makes an important point within the ongoing debate over children's mental health, asking us to look collectively beneath our obsession with services to the very way in which we operate as a society.

As a mother, I have watched my two teenaged daughters struggle with the pressures Jones mentions around identity, body image, pressure from peers and teachers in terms of vastly divergent but equally stressful expectations.  I've also watched them either support or confront their male friends on issues ranging from sexuality to sexting to macho competitiveness in the classroom.

In my professional role, I work with migrant and refugee mothers as they face similar issues - yes, often compounded by poverty, language barriers and discrimination... But essentially we all talk about the same thing; how to connect with our children as they face up to these complex, new pressures, especially when we ourselves feel increasingly embattled.

We live in a fast-paced society where the pressure to get your head down and keep fighting on is huge, whatever our particular struggles, and where we don't seem to have time to pause, and connect. We don't mean to do it - parents, teachers, professionals - but we model a disconnectedness to our young people which feeds right into the harsh expectations Jones refers to - and, of course, provides a perfect feeding ground for further inequality, social division and mental health problems.

There is undeniably a shortage of mental health services for children and young people.  There are undeniably harsh inequalities which undermine their wellbeing.  But all of us as adults can do so much with very little: pause, and connect, show them we're listening and model the kind of self-care and compassion for others that gives them hope.